#FamilyFriday | The School of Hadassah
I know that #FamilyFriday is supposed to be all about teaching our children as we walk, eat, lay down - basically at every opportunity. But what happens when our children have taught us something? I, hopefully, learn the lesson, and one day I may have the opportunity to remind her of what she taught me.
Growing up in the church, whenever this verse was talked about, without fail someone would write it off as a "cultural thing" that we don't have to do anymore. Wait, we can pick and choose which of the commands we follow based on what fits into our culture and society? Shouldn't it be the other way around? It's my understanding that God's word and the way He has asked us to live our life is going to look less and less like what our society deems normal.
Don't worry guys, I'm not going to actually kiss you every time I see you. But let's look at what the underlying principle is. We should be able to greet one another with a sincere love, and a desire to encourage and uplift one another. If the other person has offended you, those issues have to be taken care of in order for you to be able to greet them like this. You have to go out of your way and put yourself second to actually do these things. And sometimes it you have to pull together an enormous amount of energy just to greet your neighbor. No wonder so many people have written it off as a cultural thing. It's hard to do.
But it's worth it.
We've been reading Dale Carnegie for both our businesses as well as our personal life. He has plenty to say about this.
This doesn't seem so hard. Just smile at those you see. But to be honest, I've got to dig down deep to make myself want to do this.
And then I read this story.
After studying the writings of both these wise men, and really trying to get down to the root of what the apostles were trying to remind us to do, I tried my best to greet those who I passed. Some days, and with some people, it was really difficult to do it, to put a smile on my face and greet them. I saw some faces genuinely light up, but many others were just mimicking my own. But I was still having a hard time. There were days I still wasn't convinced, and other days I was just selfish.
But then, here comes my daughter.
We went grocery shopping the other night. Hadassah had been having a really rough day and we thought it might help to get her out of the house. Ever since she was old enough to be aware of others' presence, she would always give everyone she passed the most ridiculously cheesy smile. I, literally, have seen her change people's attitudes and turn their day around. So the other night, as we were leaving the check-out lane, she stopped and waved at the cashier, then at the greeter at the door, and then at a really intimidating ex-football player sitting on a bench. They all loved it, of course, but they were about to turn their attention away - and then she blew kisses to all of them! She transformed their day. You could see it on their faces. She was the sun breaking through the clouds, like Dale Carnegie wrote about.They even followed us around the corner so they could catch one more wave or smile from her.
Tonight at the dinner table, ask yourself and your family: Is there anyone who you wouldn't be able to honestly greet with love? Why? What can you do about it? And then set a goal for tomorrow that you're going to greet 5 people who you pass. Give them a genuine smile and say "Good morning!"